What is Our Mortality?

At any second, we stand on the edge of our own mortality and we wait.  Unsuspectingly, we wait to plunge into the depths of the unknown.  All humankind is poised for this moment, and as we wait we can choose to occupy our time with the world as we perceive it, or we can search intrinsically and find the depths of the meaning as to why we wait with baited breath for the moment when we shall enter the unknown.  I’ve known family members to be here one minute and gone the next, with nary a moment’s notice to collect our thoughts or to say our goodbyes.  I’ve had people in my life who enter like the wind and leave just as suddenly, and although they’ve not past from this life, they are removed from mine as if they were.  Then there are those people, whom I love, who have chosen to remove themselves from my life, as if they were already gone, allowing time to hammer the nails of the proverbial coffin which was once our relationship.  All the while, I wonder why it has to be this way, and if I just give a little they will most assuredly come back.  However, this isn’t usually the case.  People leave for one reason or another, and their absence, no matter how big or small reminds us all of our mortality and what little time we have to make a difference in the lives of those we touch from day-to-day. 

When I was thirty-five, I being a ridiculous thinker, moved within myself and begin to think about what my life meant so far, the fact my life was potentially a third of the way completed, and how quickly the years had moved past me all the while giving me moment after moment to savor if I were just willing to open my eyes.  As the thoughts continued to roll over and over in my mind, I cautioned myself not to take a knee jerk reaction to the events in my life as if I were on a sitcom, but instead to patiently begin a movement towards a life’s purpose and goal.  My eventual goal was to realize the light of joy in my life and move towards this goal.  The goal was an eternal existence with God, which is easier to say than do, but I’m a pretty stubborn person, so anything I do takes time and patience before I ever begin.  More often than not, when I don’t exhaust my time thinking about something, I usually mess up whatever it was I was trying to accomplish in the first place.

The first step was to remove myself from the dramatic plays which went on in my head, and live a drama free lifestyle focused on those things which had purpose and meaning in my life.  This of course sounds simple, until people get involved, and a sense of belonging or obligation begins to get in the way, and then what once sounded so simple takes on a convoluted tone obscuring the original goal.  Much like our society, people feign the existence of love and altruism, but they do so without the principle understanding of objective truth, so their subjectivity tends to mare what would be a pure accomplishment and goal seeking life towards the transcendent.  In other words, they let life get in the way and life is a hell of a mess sometimes.  So, this was my goal, to focus on three things and in this order, God, Family, and handling my business.  These very real foundations of life seemed to have become less important to me for some reason, and I was determined to change this.  Though, I wanted the change to become a real change and not a knee jerk reaction, bound to become a passing fad in the potential future years which would come.  This was terribly difficult for me!

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To begin, from the earliest times I can remember, my friends and I would talk as boys do when parents aren’t around, and we would do so in the most vulgar ways.  This has carried over in my adult life, and at times when anger strikes especially, I can cuss like a sailor on leave, and to this very day I’m still working on removing those words from my vocabulary altogether.  However, when everything we see on television is one curse word after another, the haze of doing the right thing becomes harder and harder to see through.  Although, this isn’t the worst thing a person can do, it is a perfect example of the type of struggle I have seen day-to-day for years on trying to put God first.  Trying to pray or meditate in a day, for a busy person, is like trying to stop a race to ask for directions, it’s just not going to happen.  However, this pace we live our lives is a very fleshly, worldly, and man-made desire.  God, as far as I can tell, doesn’t want the excuses we would undoubtedly try to provide, as to why we didn’t do what we knew needed to be done, but instead action is what is needed.

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Action, a word in action, so full of meaning in our own lives, it has the potential to conjure up all sorts of images in one’s mind’s eye.  I know when I see people in action, it somehow inspires me to act in ways I never thought would be possible, good or bad, but watching people in action inspires.  This is why what we watch is just as important as what we do.  Faith in action inspires us to do the works God intended for each of us to do, but actions based solely in sin or even partially cause us to justify the works of man as being more important than God’s Will.  Which is why we are bombarded with intrinsically evil works today, and told we must believe this new way of life, or we are subject to intense scrutiny, and being reasonable people we don’t want our lives upended over something which will be forgotten shortly, or do we?  This is the line in the sand, folks, this is the moment in our lives where the divergent paths of sin and saint must cross.  Now, I’m not saying I’m a saint by any stretch but God sees our struggles and holds us up so we might endure the pain life throws in our general direction.  Those of us, who would rather not struggle at all and continue to move down the path of the sinner bring sadness to the eyes of the one who created us.

How long can we do this, before the sin in our lives takes a toll on our very being, before our desire is anything but the Glory, God has promised?  Our culture seems to be at a crossroads as we speak, we see derision among every facet of society, and those who would desire moral and truthful lives are shouted down into an oblivion (or so it would seem) and forced to face a society where seeking God becomes a lonely road of superstition and make-believe.  This is what our culture would have us believe, but this has never been true.  God is very real, there are more reasons to believe than to be an unbeliever, and the challenge to anyone would be to prove God doesn’t exist.  It can’t be done, likewise I can’t prove it either, except for the overwhelming miraculous, spiritual, historical, and faithful beliefs I’ve seen and know about to convince me God is very real and very much wants us to take our mortality into consideration when we walk our personal path in life. 

Seeking God in all we do, helps to create in us an awareness of love within every fold of life as we take those steps of faith.  I currently work with many professional people who neither openly pursue a life focused on God nor do they entertain conversations where God might be the main topic.  Most of them are intelligent young professionals, who have been fed a steady diet of ego laden fodder and they’ve begun to believe what another person has told them.  I’ve seen some treat other people with so much disdain, I became incredulous at the event unfolding before my eyes.  It was like life imitating art, as if they saw themselves placed before a movie camera and they were acting out a dramatic scene.  A couple of thoughts entered into my mind while watching this unfold, the first being my own culpability in allowing such behavior and also my own behavior over the years in just such a situation, and the second was an immediate awareness of the thinness of words as opposed to action.  There is the word “action” one more time.  I knew, almost immediately, my words if uninteresting to them, would fall on deaf ears, and I wouldn’t get anywhere with their current perceptions of life.  However, my actions, in love, would carry the strength of the angels in a movement to destroy the hardness of their hearts.  Believe me, there is a lot of harness, I feel sometimes as if I’m making no progress.  Tough is usually not a strong enough word to describe their total desire to unto themselves rather than the Will of God.  This is what we are all here for, to find the light, and then to lead others to the light we’ve found.  While standing on this precipice of life, awaiting a forever with Jesus, we should realize the need to tell what we know before it’s time, but the way we can tell our story and what we see is through the loving action of patience and charity.

This is where we’re at, a life meant to be lived once, and a life meant to example to others where the paths we seek in mortality will go.  Sin is everywhere, the more aware of God we become, the more we revile the sin which surrounds us and as pervasive as this sin is, we desire to tell others.  Much like telling a teenager about the pitfalls of life, most people choose to find the sin themselves and likewise have the hubris to believe it won’t cause detriment to them like it did so many others.  I’m not one to preach a gloom and doom topic of conversation, but I do believe in a world which exists either in dark or light.  Our desire to touch sin, because we’ve no longer turned to the light, puts us into an existence of greyish hue.  Life becomes dull and sullen as the darkness begins to overtake us and less of our world becomes visible. 

The danger of life and our mortality comes from living the word of God, and not turning our very backs on the truth (no matter how uncomfortable it makes us).  As far as I can tell there are some major topics of discussion which plague our society, and I think I will discuss more in the future, but to this point as I type issues like transgender, homosexuality, definition of family, politics, and faith are all such hot button topics, just talking about them seems to cause riotous behavior among some folks.  For the record, I don’t presume to judge or dictate the path a person should take in life, but I will express the focus of what sin is and what it does to our lives no matter the simplistic justification and baseless ideologies which are thrown to explain.

Since our mortality is so prevalent, embracing any type of sin is a matter of life and death for hell is a place where we must request entry but heaven is gate open because of the love in our hearts and the purity of our souls. 

As this New Year begins to take shape, I encourage everyone to stop focusing on tomorrow and forget about yesterday, today is what you have.  If you’re inclined to seek God, know on this day you might be sent a personal request to meet God.  Are you prepared to be in the very presence of love and goodness?  If you died today, where do you think you would go?  If being with God is of the utmost importance to you, but you’re not living a life worthy of this importance, how serious are you really about being with God for eternity?  Morality isn’t a chant performed weekly at mass by unaffected and uninterested people.  Morality is the presence of mind and spirit acting as one to attain recognition of Jesus Christ, and the sacrifice made for our souls and then to marry the understanding of our sin as it relates to God, the very nature of being itself especially as it relates to the silence which exists in our very hearts.  Become a moral person if you’re not, be the example of a moral person to those you can see are seeking the light of Christ, don’t turn from the wretched, they need your patience and your love so they can tear away the fleshly coils and chains of man, and realize the beauty in which God lovingly sculpted their soul before they were born in to this world. 

If you have a story or something which has been weighing on your mind lately, unburden yourself not through words, but a recognition of action and your very own mortality.  As morbid as it is to contemplate, realize we will all die at some point, but the difference between those who turned away and those who embraced God, is a distinct perception of joy.  The distinct perception of joy will brighten the colors we see, increase the passionate emotion we feel for everything, and the enrichment of life will be such, and we barely have words to describe the fulfillment of life’s needs on absolutely every level of your life.  Your family will be blessed by your actions, you will appreciate your family on a more granular level, and as much as you live, so too will the people who are blessed to be with you every day.  May God bless you and your family!!!

God is good, all the time, and all the time, God is good!!!

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A Point of Light In Our Darkness

Today, I was unfortunate enough to watch legislative hearings, where legislators grilled a cabinet secretary about the function of their department.  The Secretary was pummeled with question after question and barely allowed to answer as time permitted.  The people asking the questions were unkind at times and harassing at other times.  Their political anger was in full vitriolic pace with their fellow legislators and as they pursued an avenue of blame and discontented hegemony over the Secretary, their motives were on full display.  They positioned themselves to stand upon the mountain of morality, all the while deluding themselves as Don Quixote did, hypocrisy seemed to be the flavor of the day and they were taking full advantage of the speaking supremacy they had from their elected offices.  One couldn’t help but feel sorry for the position the Secretary was placed, especially when questions about the law and pursuant policies to enforce were questioned and even ridiculed.  The Secretary is at the behest of the President, but is still required to maintain the disciplined behavior of law as it pertains to federal function.  The very people who were deriding the Secretary for following the law, to the letter, are the very ones who can change it to suit whatever desires they want.  I’ve always heard a phrase, “don’t kill the messenger”, utilized between kings to accept the poor news given and not to punish the one giving the bad news.  However, it seems as if history isn’t a lesson our elected officials take into consideration.  Perhaps common sense isn’t either, but the one glaring and worrisome direction I do see is vengeance, hubris, and a dark desire to ambition at the destruction of all around.

Vengeance, a terrible word, which conjures up scenes from movies whereby the heroin is tempted to walk down this dark road, but inevitably reaches the light and doesn’t lower themselves into such a pit.  Though recently, our entertainment options have showed an embrace of such behavior towards the dark as some misaligned prospect to accept hate and sin as par for the course.  Though, sinking to the very level of the sin we despise is the recipe for destruction of our lives and our souls.  It just doesn’t come with a surgeon general’s warning, “may cause destruction of soul if you continue this path”, but the warning is there and it is real.  Our culture seems to totter on the edge of destruction at every single point in our existence, and although some might say this is life as we accept it, I would argue, it doesn’t have to be this way.  Sin isn’t good, it isn’t healthy, and pursuing avenues where we accept sin as something we must live with is standing on this precipice where we risk everything to embrace an earthly life rather than the heavenly.

As the legislators continued to punish the Secretary, who I would add held their ground to my amazement, I became aware of an entertainment industry phrase, “jumping the shark”.  A term coined when the sitcom “Happy Days” became so unrealistic and willing to do anything for ratings, they had the character, Arthur Fonzerelli, wearing a leather jacket and on skis jump a shark while maintaining an aura of coolness.  To say the least, even for people who enjoyed the show, this was too much.  The ridiculous nature pushed upon the viewer became too much and shortly thereafter the show was cancelled.  Although the government our culture elects isn’t a television sitcom, it is still adherent to the whims of those who watch them perform their duties.  Which isn’t above reproach, especially due to the nature of their elected offices.  They are and always should be held accountable for their actions in office, but what happens to the quality of elected officials when subjective morals and beliefs begin to take hold in a society so willing to accept anything other than the truth?  Chaos is a good word, but one which suits the environment better is ambition, people so willing to reach their ambitious goals they throw caution to the wind and rush towards this goal.  In previous years, at least as long as I’ve been alive, I’ve seen politicians conceal ambitious goals as a manner for polite politics.  There are smiles and maneuvering which creates posturing, but with this comes a strategy and tactics which our culture has come to know the very nature of politics.  The duplicity our politics has reached on both sides of the aisle is one of destructive properties.  As a culture, when we are asked to give our opinions about politics, usually nothing good comes from the question.  Most of us think of politicians are liars, corrupt, cheaters, duplicitous, schemers, ambitious, liars, and generally awful individuals.  Though, is this really a fair depiction of the modern politician?  If I were to go out on a limb, I would say no, this is a depiction of the minority of politicians, but the vast majority desire to do good in the position they hold and wish to do good for the constituents they represent.  This appears to be changing, at least before my very eyes.  I was watching people yell at one another, push their ambitious goals on the crowd gathered, and treat a fellow human being with vitriol for something which if taken apart, they were more to blame than the person being questioned.

The politicians “jumped the shark”, and by my estimation, we as the people who elected them can see it now.  The politicians no longer seemed concerned about appearances, but instead they are pushing their agendas and warped sense of morality on those of us who find an objective authority and are increasingly more conflicted with rules and regulations which run counter to our morals and belief systems.  If we just accept this, like many already have, and we just accept misaligned principles with our very own, then were like the legislators are more to blame than the people we question.  Suddenly, this world begins to close in on us a little, the truth becomes very uncomfortable and we have little or no alternatives.  We can choose a path of righteous indignation over acts of a deplorable nature, but when face with a true reality, we are staring at ourselves.  Our society is the way it is because of us, change begins with our actions in a desire to affect changes more suitable with our desires for moral and ethical laws and behaviors.  Our problem comes when we listen to those with no direction, pull us into the quagmire of detail to create justification.

Currently, our world seems to be overrun with a sudden explosion of immigrants seeking “asylum” from governments and local conditions which are oppressive and dangerous to their lives.  The Christian doctrine of faith dictates to all Christians, our fellow man should always be precious to us and we are to give aid where possible (Luke 10:29-37 “Good Samaritan”).  This is also important to recognize the sovereignty of a nation, a nation is built on the acts of the people, in either the creation or defense of the nation.  So, what to do when thousands of people seek to flood a border for safety, a better life, or a new start?  The question is a quagmire, but one which cultures have sought to answer for ages.  However, more questions arise from everything asked, and nothing which can be solved here today or tomorrow or perhaps in our lifetime, to think we can solve the problems of the world, especially problems which have plagued generations of people amounts to an arrogance only to be rivaled by the mountain of ambition we seek. 

The answer to most questions, especially of this nature, is accountability, the reaction to any event whereby we accept our role in the events and outcomes.  As much as the country should treat people appropriately, we must also consider the actions of the individuals seeking asylum, the actions of the areas they are fleeing, and the roles both country’s play in regards to immigration.  When we fail to approach the proper accountability, we fail ourselves and the very culture we’re a part of, plus to mention we fail our race.  We become nothing more than animals at this point, and our humanity is in question for its abhorrent stance against our fellow man.

Our hubris and arrogance seem to get the best of all of us.  Those of us who seek ambition, seek power, control, wealth, and an all-encompassing desire to embrace the flesh of this world rather than the spirit.  We become slaves to our desires, and no matter the lessons of the past, we are certain we are better than the failures before us.  Currently the question of socialism and communism have come about, a desire to realize a utopian society, where an equality of outcome can finally be realized, and we can all live our lives in harmony.  Suddenly I see the scene from “Animal House” when John Belushi smashes the guitar against the wall, and this is what I want to do when I hear such ridiculous notions of utopia.  Utopia doesn’t exist on this earth, it is a fallacy of desire and argument because man exists and where man exists, so too does free will, and with free will man has the ability to sin.  Which is what has happened every time a socialist experiment has been tried and failed.  Any proper history book will explain the enormous death toll which has been realized at the desire to have a utopian experience, but what is worse is the glaringly obvious examples of non-communistic and socialistic environment and the lack of death cause by the hands of those enlisted to create the utopia.  Russia, China, Germany, Italy, and Venezuela are examples of needless deaths caused by the hand of a ruthless dictator/government.  Yet we have to realize, if everyone is to get the same sized pie handed out to them, who controls the person handing out the pie?  Who determines the size of the slice and when it is to be sliced?  People who desire to have control, such as many in our political culture today, believe they would run everything better than the despots of centuries before, and where they may try failure is always around the corner and hubris is our lesson for this.  The less we have people telling us what to do in our lives, the quicker we become autonomous to ourselves and we will seek the objective truth and authority which has always existed.  When we rely on other imperfect and sinful human beings to make a rule of living for us, without consulting the objective truth, is the quicker we seek the path we walk littered with mistake after mistake eventually leading us to a understanding of failure and doom where we no longer care.

When we’ve finally reached the pathway of destruction, where we no longer care, our laziness to put the blame on another becomes the hypocritical crypt we enclose around ourselves and we then reside our fate to the decision of others.  Who wants to live like this?  Who wants the destruction of our souls and lives left to a person who neither cares if we ever existed at all?  When I watch the legislators eviscerate witnesses over a pursuit of ambition, I see this happening, I see what appears to be a dark future for all of us, but this is what it’s supposed to look like.  The reality is, we can change what we see, we can change the path we walk, and we can no longer accept the person whom we elect to be an immoral agent for darkness rather than light.  The solution starts with God always.  If we elect someone who neither believes in God, no a life after this very one we live now, we should worry.  Seeking God tells me a few things about the person I want to represent me.  The first being, they answer to a higher authority, which is to say, they are less worried about the rules here and more about the eternity they face, so in action their behavior and decisions will reflect an eternal desire to be with God.  Second, their desire to be with God makes for a moral path walked daily.  A person who has neither a desire to be with God or follow the will of God, has neither a moral path to walk or cares to walk it at all.  The atheist who purports morals is lying, they are following behaviors with a selfish goal to attain, once this goal is reached or they find no purpose in this path, they will abandon it as soon as they can.  Third and final point is how can we trust the actions of anyone when they determine themselves as their own personal god?  It never worked out well for the Greeks, why would it work out well for us?  Joking aside, a worrisome situation occurs when anyone believes themselves to be the sole ruler of their destiny and the sole arbiter of judgment of their destiny.  By my own experience, I would stay as far away from this paradigm as is humanly possible, because this is a pathway to destruction.  These are the people who will begin wars, who will kill millions who they find as threatening, and who will take the world down for the desire to control it.

I hope in some of my words I’ve conveyed a silver lining in a world filled with perceive doom and gloom.  With God, even in the worst of times, we always seek the light.  I had a conversation with my wife yesterday, and I came along with a great analogy.  Imagine we are locked into a room, no windows, and in complete darkness, but directly across from us is a pin-prick of light, barely visible, but yet still there.  The light we can see, when we place our eye next to it is almost searing, but when we step back, we can barely see it once more.  This is how our world is perceived most of the time, we stand on the opposite side of the room, sometimes even turning away from the pin-prick of light, but it is still there.  It still exists, and just because it isn’t how we want it to be or as bright as we think it ought to be, this is all based on where we stand and whether we’re looking for it.  The fact it exists alone is a measure of the existence.  Goodness and morality exist in this world, there are many people who embrace this objective measure of life, but we too often turn our heads from this light to focus on what is dark.  The mere presence of these people prove to the existence of this pin-prick in the room of darkness we exist in.

For many of us, this is difficult to imagine a world which is filled with the reflective light of God, but this is only because we’ve never bothered to turn around and look for it.  Seek God’s light, seek God’s voice, and know you were put on this earth to control the decisions you make and not have someone who is adverse to your life in more ways than one control your life.  In the pin-prick of light which is surrounded by the darkness we are in, one cannot deny the light exists, because we can see even the smallest point of light can illuminate the darkness we seek to hide in.  God bless you and your family!!!

God is good, all the time, and all the time, God is good!!!      

Should We Not All Be Equal?

In our modern cultural circles, a hubris arises, and within the context of social order we find people creating paradigms of equality.  Sometimes, these consist of economic equality (socialism), or social and economic equality (communism with socialistic economies).  The hubris which comes from such day dreams, is a continued approach which determines their efforts will surely succeed in triumph, even though every major attempt has failed prior to now.  Their one underlying question, “Shouldn’t we all be equal?” finds enthusiastic ears willing to force an equality of outcome for the purpose of subjective justice.  There are few things wrong with this pursuit though.  I want to briefly touch on them, so I can put into perspective, equality as an outcome is the most unjust outcome ever deigned as a solution to the problem of poverty.

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First, let’s tackle the concept of what poverty actually is, and why “the poor will always be with you” (Matt 26:11).  There are sectors of every population, either by circumstance, choice, or condition which remain below an acceptable societal standard for economic subsistence.  By choice, they choose to work in a job which pays very little, either because a lack of education, or by societal barriers placed on them from poor choices (e.g. prison record preventing someone from working).  At any rate, choice is a factor larger than is capable of describing in many cases.  Sometimes, a circumstance, a loss of job or debilitating injury, without a financial security net, causes induced poverty.  This again stems from an indirect choice, but ultimately wasn’t the choice of those who succumbed to the poverty conditions.  Finally, as a population’s wealth increases, there will always be a poverty level well below and average income distribution, but as the standard of living increases so too will the standard for poverty.  Take for instance, the poverty level has increased, in the U.S. for a family of four by over $20k in the last fifty years.  Whereas other, less industrialized nations, still have a poverty level below the US 1968 poverty level.  So, what does this tell us, subjective standards of poverty as based in the position and placement of local analysis.  The poverty stricken people now, live better than the poverty stricken people fifty years ago.  This isn’t to imply, charity is going away, but instead to give familiarity to the paradigm of subjectivity to explain the perspective we find ourselves in, in today’s world.

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Equality of choice, is a foundational need for every society.  The choice of whether or not to seek ambitious desires, to protect one’s life, to speak against injustice and so forth.  What culture, all across the world seems to be struggling with is those with and those without, as a means for cultural destruction!  It is argued, those who make exorbitant wages shouldn’t, and those who make very little, should make more, but very often when pressed as to why this social manipulation should occur and poor answer is given.  Social equality, must be a measure of the choices a society makes in regards to an individual’s choice, for instance, the choice in what secondary education is sought.  Perhaps and equality of prospect, in one’s decision on how to grow wealth; in our culture, with a little extra money, anyone can invest what they have, at a risk, and potentially grow their wealth to increase their own standard of living.  The key to understand is, at their risk, everything is at your risk. Your health, your wealth, your, faith, and your family’s sense of direction are always at some risk, but this is the benefit of choice, the ability to make a decision which will either benefit or create detriment for yourself and those around us.

Equality is a subjective term, a term which in today’s lexicon, and with it carries a negative connotation, as in the “have’s and have not’s”, but more importantly it assumes an objective authority determines the measure of equilibrium to determine right and wrong.  With so many people denouncing traditional methods of objective stances, such as morals, ethics, and societal norms, the landscape is moving rapidly with little or no thought given to such dramatic decisions.

When I was a bright-eyed teenager, set to put the world aright with all of my ideas, I knew the past regimes of the Nazi’s and other socialistic economy nations had failed.  Though, the Utopian concept of a “needs” being provided for by the state, wasn’t altogether unappealing.  My mentality at the time was one of relativistic ideals, which is to say, I wanted everyone to have what we as a society considered to be basic standards.  So, let me stop there and at least give one argument for experience.  There is a reason, young people should not make decisions which affect millions, they simply don’t have the experience needed to weigh the decision(s) properly, within the context of life and general experience.  The man I was at 28 was a completely different person than the perceived man I was at 18.  The ideologies I purported were just simplistic explanations bent on watering down complex issues in order to make them more palatable for myself and the people I talked with.  At the end of the day, I was asked a question about perceived rights as they related to the choices we make, in my arrogance, I fell head long, into the trap.  His question was simple, why is it ok to take from people who’ve worked hard for their earnings, and give to others who haven’t.  Now, simplicity aside, this is what he boiled it down to.  A legalized version of theft, and once I started looking at the rippling effect of people taking what I have worked so hard for, because the state said it was ok, is as evil a proposition as using tax dollars to pay for abortions.  At any rate, a decision to give our earnings should be ours to make, and the more consistent we are about standards of giving, the more expectation certainty people will have with what they should have and shouldn’t have.

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The largest charitable organization in the world is the Catholic Church, but this is overshadowed by the complex and disgusting issues of abuse within the church.  However, context once again is key to understanding the whole issue.  First, to place equality on all people in the church, and expect all people to act according to the equality of status is silly at best.  When one person or a group of people act heinously, is it fair to condemn a church with a church body of over a billion people?  Is it fair to hate America because of the actions purported upon detainees at Abu Ghraib, or is it wise to lump an entire group into one contingent, much like I did as a youth with my desire to fulfill ideologies as a means of explanation?  The equality comes only in perception of who we are and why we’re here, but this is where equality is no more.  Some people are meant to be kings, and some are meant to be the King’s servants, where is the equality now?  If a king serves his people as a good steward, is not their life better and are they not capable of being joyful in God?

Equality, seems to be and ideological imperfection, as a result of poorly thought out ideals translated into even worse contextual pitfalls.  To say we are equal, is only true when describing the human condition; we are all human, we all seek life and a way to live life which meets whatever expectation(s) we see fit for our lives.  This is where equality ends.  Some people are born to affluent families and continue the affluent life, passing their wealth on to their offspring and so on and so on.  Some people are born lowly and poor, in conditions which neither seem fair nor right.  Equality has nothing to do with this, choice has everything to do with it though.

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Choice is a confounding and yet simple concept, a choice to do one thing or another can have ramifications which last a lifetime, or the choice of another might be the deciding factor over how we respond to a specific situation.  The affluent family may be this way because of the decision by some previous generation helped to foster an increase in wealth and further their affluence, or it could be just sheer luck which allowed for just such a circumstance.  The choices of the poor family could consist of poor job choices, poor money management, and in some cases a family unwilling to do the hard work to ensure future generations would no longer be poor.  In many cases the results of what we see today in either affluent or poor sectors of our societies are as a result of choices made years ago.  Choices which were given to us out of equality, but by making the choices have created two different paradigms.  The first being the paradigm of the poor, an inequality is realized because the rich have what is desired, a way to pay for things.  The second, is perfect equality, because someone, somewhere along the line, worked hard and put into motion the circumstances laid before the world at the time of the perception.  On any level though, taking what is rightfully someone else’s either by inheritance or by choice, is absolutely wrong.  Of course, the examples used are not everyone’s opinion, nor are they the only opinion, but they are an opinion which validates those in our culture who wish to right a perceived wrong by committing wrong choices themselves.

The hard truth to all of it is, we may never be wealthy, or celebrated for our contributions in life or to our society at large, and in a world where everyone makes a video, writes a blog, does something to get noticed, it has become harder to achieve a subjective standard which keeps moving constantly.  A standard which sets into motion, seeming obtainable measures of success, but at the very same time indicates working to achieve those measures is a matter of opinion rather than the standard.  Placing ourselves at the behest of the proverbial mob indicates we no longer want to make decisions for ourselves, and essentially we want someone to make these decisions for us.  If we don’t trust the neighbor down the street, who else is there, I bet you guessed it already, the government.  A figurative body which seeks to legislate our lives, but neither has an inkling of faith nor cares who you or I are.  A body, which is notorious for making poor decision, and a body which creates counterproductive measures of law to restrict the citizens it is making decisions for.  For instance, I pay my taxes every year, but I have no way of knowing what my tax dollars are going to.  I have no way of preventing further tax dollars from being misused, except by election (there’s your equality), and no matter how hard I try, if my candidate isn’t elected, decision made for me by the newly elected official, may run counter to anything I want or think is correct.  My equality comes from the right to make the decision, not the decision itself or the outcome, and in the heightened atmosphere of charged anger and perceived inequality, people now want to force equality on every level, this is nonsense.

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If we are to live a life of joy, and focus on the light of Christ, we need to remove the notion of equality from our minds as results are concerned.  We have what we have because of God’s Graces.  Look at your spouse, your kids, your entire family, and realize without God, there would be nothing.  If anyone of us were wrongly convicted of a crime, and nothing we said or did would remove this burden from us, what then do we do?  Do we give up on life, or do we work harder?  I have never been to prison, so I can truthfully speak to the conditions of the prison and its inhabitants, but at the same time, I can legitimately speak of anyone else’s condition or circumstances.  I can only speak of which I know, and every time in my life, where hard choices were to be made, my principles and morals given to me by God, my parents, and my spouse have allowed a resolute focus on God’s love to allow joy to permeate throughout everything I do.  Regardless of any shortcoming I seem to meet as a result of another’s decision, I’m not looking to create an equal playing field, I am looking to enrich my understanding of God through the struggles I face.  He walks with me in every step I take, he never leaves me, if this isn’t something to be joyous about nothing is.

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When we focus on those things in life which actually have some meaning, and matter at the heart of what’s important all the other stuff in life seems to melt away into a trivial pursuit of self.  Can’t you remember a time where you were worried, possibly about a loved one, and when you found out they were fine, you realized nothing else in the world mattered at that moment.  Not whether, a wealthy person made more money than yourself, or if you didn’t get something you believe everyone else did.  Instead, your love transcended your ability to worry about the stuff of this world, and carried you to a place where all becomes clear and allows an embrace of your love with the love of another, as God lifts both of you up.

I hope the pursuit of equality in everyone’s life is a pursuit of love, and a measure of making sure opportunity to love is available, it is the only one which matters as an equal choice in our lives.  If you’re ever unsure about your pursuits of equality, think about the understanding needed to perceive the condition of another person, if after you’ve placed yourself in their shoes, walked the miles, and still see a measure of inequality, then love and discernment has granted you a special place to ascend.  Always make good choices, and stop worrying about the perceptions of another, except those things which cannot be changed, and know either by choice or by circumstance we’ve all been equally placed in our positions by God.  May God bless you, and your family!!!

 

God is good, all the time, and all the time, God is good!!

You Hear But You Do Not Heed!

Take a step back from your reality today, look at the world around you.  Look at the news, which runs now constantly.  Look at entertainment, focused on filling up every nook and cranny of your time.  Look at art, hardly any of it focused on an ethereal and transcendental elevation of our reality, but instead a deluge of abstract figures and paintings, of nature and a pantheistic pursuit designed to make us feel comfortable, and above all celebrations of mediocrity.  Stories seem unoriginal now more than ever, movies are remakes of once celebrated ground-breaking forms of art sometimes once and twice over.  The criticism each person faces by exposing their art has more to do with an inability to have perfected an art form which required decades to master, and the public’s immediate expectation let down (any Star Wars movie after Return of The Jedi as a perfect example).  This constant criticism of an audience which no more has an ability to critique because of their own deficiencies in the education of art have led studios and executives to pursue the benefits as a means rather than the goal of entertainment.  The inexplicable problem which inherently comes forth is, the quality is poor, and in our deepest recesses we all know it, but since we paid so much for what we are seeing we feel personally obligated and willing to sit through and endure this nightmare simply by personal duress of this obligation.  We’ve all allowed our standards to take a back seat, this includes the executive to the teenager willing to pay.  This is just one facet of our society willing to degrade a standard to have instant satisfaction, and for what?  Jesus, in his words to the disciples said, “Everyone who listens to these words of mine and acts on them will be like a wise man who built his house on rock. The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and buffeted the house. But it did not collapse; it had been set solidly on rock.  And everyone who listens to these words of mine but does not act on them will be like a fool who built his house on sand. The rain fell, the floods came, and the winds blew and buffeted the house.
And it collapsed and was completely ruined.”

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Cardinal Sarah, wrote in his book “Power of Silence” about listening to the voice of God, within the silence of our hearts, indicating the rightly ordered understanding of God, ipsum esse subsistens (the very nature of being), as residing in the quietness of our hearts and we must intently and lovingly listen if we want to hear what he is saying.  At the same time, St. Thomas Aquinas points out this imprint of God in all of us, is what causes us to inexplicably drive towards him in all we do, even if we fail to recognize what it is we do.  So, when we choose sin or rather sinful paths to walk down, we understand more fully, the free will to sin is our choice to hear and not heed the loving words spoken to us.

Have you ever been in a situation where you friend, spouse, children, or boss has stated “I told you this would happen” and for whatever reason, you still chose the path which led to failure, or sometimes victory?  Often times, the plight of a parent is seeing a more developed picture of the world than their children, because of poor decisions and failing to listen, and we seek to instruct the child in right behavior and appropriate responses with a picture of failure as a deterrent for poor choice.  Just to have the child fail to do what was advised, and an “I told you so” situation arises, where in hopes by the parent the child will learn from this failure.  Failure, such a negative word, many papers and books have been written about the context of failure as it relates to great catastrophes an then even when it helped to build the character of a person as they ascended the ladder of their career.  However, failure is by definition, “lack of success”, according to Google.  Placed into the simple context of life, we then have to ask ourselves, what is success?  Is success obtainable in a world with such lofty goals in criticism, and yet such mediocre goals in performance?  Are we only as successful as the world says, or is there a more objective standard in which to hold our actions and effects as we run through this life of never-ending pitfalls and slippery slopes?

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The answer to any question, as simple as it may sound to anyone, is God!  God is always the answer, and placed into proper context of any situation, the answer is most appropriate.  For instance, your pregnant wife looks at you, eight and a half months in, uncomfortable and ready for this ordeal to be over soon, and she stares at you and asks the ever mindful question “do I look fat to you?”  Red lights start going off in your brain, images of people sliding down poles to man stations as sirens are going off whirls the imagination of your mind, and as you being to speak images of “Jaws” biting you in half suddenly take the forefront of your mind’s eye.  When you stop for a split second and think about God, and then all makes sense, the waters have calmed, it was just a flounder and not a man-eating shark, and you say “sweetie, you have a baby growing inside of you, you are so beautiful because of God’s gift to you”.  Before anyone thinks, this is mush and sounds cheesy, they would be so right, if you didn’t mean it.  However, your focus on God’s Graces in your life, center your responses and create in you a clean heart willing to example his light in a reflective manner towards everything you do.  Do be afraid to sound silly when speaking from the heart, this is where God is in all of us, and to speak from the heart, lovingly and humbly, is listening to God’s voice and echoing what is being said.

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Over the vast expanses of time, we have all read and seen examples of God’s light shining from those who would place their hearts in a position for complete destruction and still were unafraid.  Those people who pushed to show what they heard, no matter what people criticized them for, because deep down they knew the truth, they knew the voice, and it contained within themselves a solidarity of purpose reliant on an unmitigated sense of veracity.  However, when people can listen to God and the works of art which are delivered in such a beautiful manner, it gives us all a glimpse at the potential we all hold as a matter of hearing what is required of us as we live our lives.  From the person we see standing on the corner with a sign that says, “Will work for food” to the relative who insists on telling you about a “great opportunity you would be stupid not to get in on”.  All goodness has an ability to stare in the face of difficulty and be unflinching as a result.

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We never seem to heed the advice given by those who love us the most.  I am as guilty of this as anyone, and although I am better than I once was, at times my hubris gets the better of me, and my belief in my own ability indicates my lack of trust in others.  Which is to say, I feel as if I know better than a person who has given advice based on years of experience, especially when I have no experience at all.  The very arrogance I have displayed among friends and family over the years is astounding, because at its very worst, I attempted to disguise my arrogance under a vale of duplicity.  All the while, thinking no one can possibly know, but finding out years later, although people never said a word to me, they always knew and in my self-reflection I surmised, I must have looked completely foolish to them.  This is all as a result of listening by not heeding the advice Jesus gave us on down to the friend who only ever desired to see my happiness.  Just like when you watch a person and for some inexplicable reason, you can tell they are being untruthful, or at the very least they are not telling the entire truth, I was exposed even if they didn’t know what was being exposed.  Trust was cleaved in two, and it would take me years of hard work, pressure, and a fervent desire to meld the two halves back together.

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When Jesus spoke to his disciples about the impending fate he would suffer at the very hands of one of his own, the Apostles failed to heed his warning.  So after his crucifixion, they for fear of their own lives, sought refuge in hiding.  They huddled together, minus Judas and Thomas (Thomas not yet there and Judas hung from a tree himself by his own hands), and lamented what their lives meant at this point and what they must do from this point forward.  Then all of a sudden, as if always there, Jesus sits among them.  They are astounded, they know all too well, he died upon that cross in a place known as “the skull”, Golgotha (Gospel of Mark), where he would spend the remaining hours of his earthly life in agony.  In Luke’s Gospel, we see two other men who will meet the same fate, and although one of them rebuked Jesus, the other who knew of him, listened to God’s voice and spoke true as his exclamation of Jesus’s innocence and what’s most important his truthful words “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom” indicate, although he failed to listen to God’s voice in his sin, he listened finally and heeded what was being said.  His reward, “paradise”, but for those Apostles who remained a fire would need to be lit, literally, and as the Holy Spirit descended upon them like a flame, they were eternally given the words of God to listen and heed.  They walked to the ends of the earth and spoke of the good news, which was Jesus.  To this end, they would all die but John, and they would all do so surrounded by darkness but as the brightest reflections of light possible.

At the end of our lives, we may not all have a chance to reflectively look back on what we did right and especially what we did wrong, in the hopes of rectifying those mistakes of sin we embraced as a matter of selfish pursuit of success.  Instead, death may come quick, death may come as an unfair guest to a game which we thought we were winning, while all along, we never had control of for one instance.  Death may be the sweet release of a life which sought to hamper every effort we had at making a better life for ourselves, it may even be (like JOB) a systematic disintegration of everything we’ve known and loved.  However, this isn’t the end, and listening to advice (morally and principally sound advice) has never and will never be a means to prevent a person from enjoying life, instead it is a means of direction for a path filled with joy, even in times of struggle.  Often times, when we see pictures of natural disasters or inexplicable events, testing the very nature of our faith.  We still see victims who have chosen to listen to the voice of God, and heed what they know to be true.  A life built in pursuance of love of God, is a life where no matter the struggle, a pure focus on what is true, always carries the day.

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As we are in this Advent season, a time of waiting, and time of listening for the sound of Christ’s birth, we should be reminded of the lessons we seek to teach our own children.  To seek God in all we do, to seek love in every action performed, and in order to recognize, we must listen as much as anyone if we want to live a life in heeding of the words Jesus spoke.  So, when you go out and purchase a gift for your spouse or your kids, think about the implications of what you give them.  Of course, people want the latest or newest gadget, especially if makes their life easier (I know my wife would always like something that sparkles and she isn’t satisfied with the sparkle in my eyes apparently), but is this really the gift they need in their lives?  Don’t give the gift they want, at least not always, but give the gift they need, as a parent you are their protector and guardian, they need guidance from you every day of the year and especially during those occasions where their own inability to listen creates tension.  For your spouse, they are your other half, a union created in a covenant with God.  To be one with one another, it is always best to put your spouse’s needs above your own, but with it, you create a bond to strengthen love day-by-day.  I am reminded of the story of the Gift of the Magi, a wife with hardly any money seeks to buy her husband a gift, her only option, to sell her hair to acquire enough money for the purchase of a chain for his gold watch.  When he arrives home, he can see her hair is gone, he sits her gift upon a table, and she begins to open it when she realizes, it was a set of brushes for her beautiful hair.  Unshaken by all of this, she proceeds to hand him his gift.  A beautiful silver chain for his gold watch, but he looked at her with love in his eyes and set down the box while saying, “I sold my watch to purchase those brushes for your beautiful hair”.  The lesson from this simple story being, both were willing to give what was precious to them for the benefit of the other.  Although it amounted to very little in the material sense of the transaction, their love deepened by the acts of unselfish desire to unconditionally love one another.  The story is called Gift of the Magi because, the Magi were wise men who desired to give what they had to the King of Kings, and in doing so, and this made them wise beyond measure.  The story is similar in a vein of wisdom, the loving couple wisely gave gifts for the pursuit of happiness in the other.  Unselfishly they put the other before their own desires, willing the good of the other in life, especially when it is our spouse, is the very essence of love in action.  Every great saint, every great disciple, and every great apostle embodied the very nature of listening and heeding the words Christ spoke.  Remember, you are loved greatly, God is in your heart, listen to what is spoken to you, and heed it in every possible way.  I pray God blesses you and your family!!!

 

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God is good, all the time, and all the time, God is good!!!

Why Must I Always Be The First to Say Sorry?

Have you ever been in a situation, where both parties are angered and both believe the other should apologize first for actions less than good?  I certainly have, I’ve been in relationships and friendships where the toxicity was such, I became paralyzed by the desire to seek honor as a means of capitulation, rather than making the first move of repentance and apologizing for my actions.  The result being a further diminishment of light and descending into a pit of anger and resentment which would take me a decade or more to be removed from.  As perspective is the best lens we can look through, while we try and maintain a foundation of objective truth, I realized I was fighting three fronts at one time.  The first being myself, my ego was such, I wouldn’t really listen to anyone, or anything they had to say no matter the benefit to my life.  I was afraid of the pain it would cause me, and the thought of such pain wasn’t something I was willing to put myself through.  The second, was although the people around me didn’t put into words their hurt, they were hurt.  I let them down, I cause what seemed to be a reflection of light to become dimmed right before their very eyes.  Imagine watching a tragedy unfold before your eyes and there is nothing you can do about it?  This is what I realized I was causing to the people who were closest to me, and loved me with unconditional boundaries.  The final and the most important front to my life was the very human desire for sin as I push away all which was good and true for the promise of desire and darkness.  I didn’t want to bring myself to the very painful truth, my “sorry” and repentant behavior was all which was needed to begin to heal and allow the light of Christ in my life once again.

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As a child, I spent most of my time determining I didn’t want to answer to anyone, and this included parents, friends, and yes God.  Since I wasn’t being struck down by a bolt of lightning every time I lied, I figured a justification of what I was said was all which was ever needed for explanation.  The irony being, one of the most prolific messages my parents would ever give me was the need to stop with excuses and live up to the truth.  However, this was inconvenient to me and my purposes of fulfilling my dreams and goals in life.  Now this isn’t to say I was rude or distasteful to people I met, but rather it means I found justification in doing what I wanted, when I wanted even if it was problematic or hurtful to others.  I never desired to cause pain, but I deluded myself into thinking others were just as much to blame for my behavior as was I, so they can apologize to me as much as I can to them.  It never entered my head, in any way, to lead and accept God’s truth, we must be willing to walk the path alone, but we must be willing to lead the way as well.

So, there I am in life, causing rip tides of destructive selfish tendencies bringing people down where I can, not bothering to take full responsibility for my actions, and I’m hit with a piece of advice which changed my life and I still think about daily.  As I was attending a therapy session, because talking is the only way I can understand some things, I was told, “Sometimes, you have to have the courage to be the first to say sorry, even if it means your destruction”.  To this day, I don’t think truer words were spoken to me about what I needed to be as a man, a husband, a father, and a friend.  Look at Jesus, death on a cross, for our sins, humiliation, and pain, yet he still did it for us.  He, obviously is the perfect example, but as I heard the therapist speak these words, my life began to change.  Of course, I tried to deny her words, but over time, I began to accept what she meant and I applied my understanding to how I needed to embrace this truth seeking a better life for myself and more importantly, my family.

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I wasn’t sure how to begin, but all I knew at one point was I needed something more in my life.  I was incredulous with my life, how can I sometimes make good choices and sometimes make bad choices, there was no consistency.  I was happy at some times, and very down at others, I wasn’t sure what the hell was going on.  All I knew was it had to stop, all I wanted was no drama in life, to make good principled decisions, and to find purpose to what I was doing.

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Just like any good race, I needed to figure out why I was racing, was it for me or something else.  Well, it was for both, but most importantly, it was in search of God’s presence in my life.  God’s presence provided me with understanding, a warmth of unspeakable dimensions, and above all joy.  I won’t try and pull the wool over anyone’s eyes and say I don’t get mad, or I walk around with a smile plastered across my face every day all day.  Instead, I seem to calm down more often, quicker, less likely to get excitable about those things which I can’t control, and above all else, recognize God’s here with me and this was always the purpose.  God is my goal, my purpose for running this race, and my desire to see it through, no matter the cost.  But I was running into a wall, now I knew what I needed, I wasn’t sure how to get it.  Of course everyone knows about being “good”, but what does that exactly mean?  The world is full of good people, “hell is a road paved with good intentions”, but being a good person isn’t merely enough.  Good, is relative to the subjective conversation we have with other people.  Being principled and holy is a completely different story.  When we don’t have a measure of what good actually is, then we don’t have a concept of how to accomplish this goodness.  As it were, I was stumped by how to not only do the right thing, but to show others I was doing the right thing.  Well, the first was answered by an understanding of what a principle is.  An objective moral which becomes a standard, set to lay a foundational rule, not to be broken and which isn’t negotiable by any standard.  A principle is not just a rule, but a belief which forms our way, a conduit of sorts, towards God’s light for each one of us.  It creates in us an ability to focus our desires for the will of others, and to find joy in what we do as we become consistently good in our decisions and our very being.  What we all find in being principled is, where we follow one, we must follow them all.  This isn’t to say we always do, or I always have, but what it means, is we are human and we strive to seek this light, God’s gift to all of us is the yearning for his love and affection through means simple to understand and because of our will hard to always do.  Of course, as I realized through my principles I would attain a truthful life and devotion to God, I also needed to remove any drama.  Drama, which causes emotion to take over and decisions to be ruled by feelings only and little intellectual skill, instead of the combination of intellect and compassion as a measure of decision making which having the two combined creates principled lives in all of us.

The first thing I did, was begin as it were, my humble march in shame.  I would apologize to all members of my family, at one point or another.  This meant one-on-one meetings whenever and wherever possible to express regret at my selfish actions, because much like water with ripples, so too are our actions in the lives of other people, especially those who are closest to us.  After making my concessions and apologies to my family, extended family, and those closest to my family, I began with friends and acquaintances.  However, at this point, I wasn’t just apologizing for recent actions which caused disquiet among family, instead, it was a lamentation of sorts for past woes which I may have caused and which I needed them to know I regretted, not simply because it was wrong but because they may have hurt because of it.  Now, I know what you might be thinking, this seems like a lot of drama, especially for a person who was trying to remove drama, but I would say it was the last push of a life devoted to no more drama, except the envelopment of the drama which unfolded because of the “Passion” Jesus endured.

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What I attained from all of this has helped to set my path in life.  I hope I can pass along a little of what I’ve learned and it will help those who have experienced similar circumstances, or will help illuminate a path some have been seeking and as yet have been unable to find.  The first lesson I grasped from all of my struggles was I am entitled to nothing, I deserve nothing. In acknowledgement of God’s Graces, I’m overjoyed to receive a drop of rain on a hot day, a warm coat when a frigid wind blows against me, the hugs of my children, a kiss from my wife, a call from my mother and father, or a chance to open my eyes one more day and seek the love of God once more.  Recognition of God’s Grace is the first step to a life of joy, a life where blaming people for our troubles is no longer needed, but most importantly a belief in an existence past our earthly lives, a goal to live for.  God’s love truly isn’t a race in the traditional sense, as it is nothing to win.  Instead, God’s love, is like a race in the sense we all must start and we all must end, how we decide to run the race is the very definition of character we choose.

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Ok, so why must we always be willing to say “I’m sorry” first, because God’s love exists and in our imperfect nature, we undoubtedly could have done more to embrace the compassion and charity needed for every situation.  Often times, when I speak to my children, they are in a situation(s) where they are at the receiving end of another person’s vitriol, and in response they release their own anger and words they hope will cut as deeply as the wounds they believe they have.  Though, to be honest, no wound is too great which can’t be healed by humility and the light of God, so why easily offend?  The other night my oldest daughter was at the brunt end of an accusation, which was neither true no kind in the way in which it was delivered.  She was immediately upset and intended to strike at those who were delivering the verbal body blows, and this was how she intended on settling the issue.  Though in this case, the people who verbally accused my daughter, had been under some stress and were facing tough questions in an uncertain future, and when faced with an accusation they applied swift and incorrect judgement to affect an outcome.  Much like what my daughter was willing to do and make the same hurtful error.  However, my wife and I talked to her and she thought better of making decision by emotion only.  To this day, I’m not sure how it ended, but since I haven’t heard anything else, I would guess she adhered to a “silence is golden” behavior and left the insults and accusations alone.

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My daughter’s experience though does bring about one good point, was she at blame enough where she could have apologized for something, possibly, but only she can truly know this.  At the end of the day, this is what repentance and making one’s self humble is all about, reflecting on those instances of our own lives where we could have made a more loving outcome occur if not for our need to have a circumstance the way we want rather than what is best.  When my daughter became upset, she could have called and handled the situation emotionally, and I can’t say this would have been completely wrong, but not best you see.  Best is stopping and thinking about everything occurring, and then putting ourselves in the place of another, so we may see a situation as they see it, so we can understand as they understand, because if we’re willing to see the world through the eyes of another we might just be willing to be less hostile and more compassionate.  Jesus said “But I say to you, offer no resistance to one who is evil. When someone strikes you on [your] right cheek, turn the other one to him as well.  If anyone wants to go to law with you over your tunic, hand him your cloak as well.  Should anyone press you into service for one mile, go with him for two miles.  Give to the one who asks of you, and do not turn your back on one who wants to borrow” (Matt 5: 39-42).

Jesus speaks these words after giving the Beatitudes and right actions, and what He is saying above all other things is, our absolute need to understand, to elevate oneself to a position where even if evil is applied to us, even if we’re innocent, to stand and receive what we receive but understand there may be a point of misunderstanding on the part of the one who seeks your pain.

When we face situations which are seemingly impossible to understand, situations where we are blamed, wrongfully or rightly, we have the absolute power to step forward and fix what is broken.  When we’re always waiting on the other person to apologize, we will never be satisfied with the result, because our anticipation of personal expectations unrevealed to another are always most certain to fail.  However, if we set the tone with an expectation of redemption and adherence to humility through love and compassion, more often than not, we’re not disappointed.  Although, people will continue to disappoint, and cause us consternation through their selfish efforts, it’s up to us to be leaders and make things right, even if we stand to lose.

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At the end of the day, our free will gives us power to choose above all else.  Our choices are located in two arenas, good and bad.  Those arenas are easily labeled by the objective morals/principals we adopt in our lives.  Like a science-fiction movie, where a special gift enables the hero to draw from and locate the source of power they seek, so too is the power of principle.  When we follow our principles, we find a new world is opened up, a clean world, a world where offense is abhorred and compassion is embraced.  So, if you question life like I did at one point, know this, your principles are a great starting point and will get you on the path where the search for the light of Christ can be found.  The acceptance of those principles starts with your ability to stand before those you’ve offended and apologize.  They may never accept your apology, but at a minimum, you’ve put others before yourself and this is a great point to begin your journey.  I pray God blesses you and your family!!!

 

 

God is good, all the time, and all the time, God is good!!!

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The mindset in postmodernism is that objective truth does not exist. But in post-truth, the person believes that objective truth exists, but they subordinate truth to their preferences, or their comfort. In other words, one doesn’t care that truth exists or what the truth is if it doesn’t line up with one’s preferences. "There is but one straight course, and that is to seek truth and pursue it steadily" - George Washington letter to Edmund Randolph — 1795. Faith in Jesus Christ is our response to God's elective purpose in our life. These two truths--God's initiative and man's response--co-exist throughout the Bible. The gospel is "the message of truth" because truth is its predominant characteristic. Salvation was conceived by the God of truth (Ps. 31:5); purchased by the Son, who is the truth (John 14:6); and is applied by the Spirit of truth (John 16:13). To know it is to know the truth that sets men free (John 8:32). Believers are people of the truth (John 18:37), who worship God in spirit and in truth (John 4:24), and who obey the Word of truth (John 17:17). People have rejected, neglected, redefined, and opposed God’s truth for centuries. Some cynically deny that truth even exists or that it can be known by men (John 18:38). Others foolishly think that denying truth will somehow make it go away. Truth determines the validity of one's belief. Believing a lie doesn't make it true. Conversely, failing to believe the truth doesn't make it a lie. The gospel is true because Jesus is true, not simply because Christians believe in Him. His resurrection proved the truth of His claims and constitutes the objective basis of our faith (Rom. 1:4; 1 Pet. 1:3). Truth is our protection and strength (Eph. 6:14). Throughout history, people have tried everything imaginable to gain favor with God. Most turn to religion, but religion apart from Christ is merely a satanic counterfeit of the truth. At the heart of every false religion is the notion that man can come to God by any means he chooses--by meditating, doing good deeds, and so on. But Scripture says, "There is no other name under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved" (Acts 4:12). That name is Jesus Christ, and we come to Him by confessing and repenting of our sin, trusting in His atoning death on the cross, and affirming His bodily resurrection from the grave (cf. Rom. 10:9-10). There is no other way to God. False religious leaders and teachers talk much about God’s love, but not His wrath and holiness; much about how deprived of good things people are, but not about their depravity; much about God’s universal fatherhood toward everyone, but not much about his unique fatherhood toward all who believe in His Son; much about what God wants to give to us, but nothing about the necessity of obedience to Him; much about health and happiness, but nothing about holiness and sacrifice. Their message is full of gaps, the greatest of which leaves out a biblical worldview of the saving gospel and replaces it with the worldview of postmodernism with its dominant ethical system of relativism. The Bible describes mankind in the end times: “always learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth” (2 Tim. 3:7). Spiritual answers cannot be deduced by human reason alone (1 Cor. 2:14). It’s not that spiritual truth is irrational or illogical, but that human wisdom is defective, because it’s tainted by man’s sinfulness, and unable to perceive the things of God. That is why the Bible is so important. It gives us the answers we can’t find on our own. It is God’s Word to mankind. Scripture is divinely revealed truth that fills the vacuum of spiritual ignorance in all of us. Post-truth is the word of the year for 2016 and also the philosophy of the day, According to the dictionary, “post-truth” means, “relating to or denoting circumstances in which objective facts are less influential in shaping public opinion than appeals to emotion and personal belief.” Simply put, we now live in a culture that seems to value experience and emotion more than truth. In a “post-truth” world, people make choices based on emotion and experience rather than objective fact. So in a post-truth world, truth is irrelevant. What exactly is a post-truth culture? It’s a culture where truth is no longer an objective reality. It has become subjective. It’s what’s true for me—my beliefs, my opinions, determine my truth. So in our post-truth culture, man determines truth. Man makes himself the ultimate authority. This starting point, which rejects God’s Word and the idea of moral absolutes, makes truth subjective. Truth will never go away no matter how hard one might wish. Christianity is grounded in objective truth. “And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free” (John 8:32). Objective truth exists because we have God’s Word. In the Gospel of John, Jesus says, “Sanctify them by Your truth. Thy word is truth” (John 17:17), and Paul and James describe the Bible as “the word of truth” (2 Timothy 2:15; James 1:18). The Psalmist says, “The entirety of your word is truth” (Psalm 119:160). Jesus Himself said, “For this cause I was born, and for this cause I have come into the world, that I should bear witness to the truth. Everyone who is of the truth hears My voice” (John 18:37). When Jesus said, “I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one comes to the Father except by me” (John 14:6), He wasn’t expressing His personal belief or opinion. He was speaking the truth, a fundamental reality that doesn’t change from person to person. It doesn’t matter if our culture thinks all roads lead to God. The truth of the matter is “no one comes to the Father but by [Jesus].” This blogs goal is to, in some small way, put a plug in the broken dam of truth and save as many as possible from the consequences—temporal and eternal. "The further a society drifts from truth, the more it will hate those who speak it." - George Orwell

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